Living Purposefully

I recently discovered Dax Shepherd’s podcast called Armchair Expert. The first two episodes I listened to were the episodes where he interviews his wife, Kristen Bell (KB). She’s clearly an evolved human. Meaning, she’s done self-work to get to a place where she isn’t reacting. Instead, she comes across as introspective and thoughtful.  She’s purposefully living, or so it appears. There’s a portion of the podcast where she and Dax are discussing their differences in responding to situations around them. KB states that, unlike her husband who wants to essentially flick off someone who cuts him off in traffic, she asks herself what might be happening to or going on for that person to cause him to be a jerk and cut her off. She postulates that perhaps his mother died the previous day, perhaps he is rushing to the hospital to not miss the birth of a child. Her point being, we never know what is going on in someone else's life so why not give them the benefit of the doubt. This seems so simple and rides the “let’s just all be kind to each other” kind-of wave. But this notion that something deeper or more complicated might be going on to cause someone to act in a-not-so-nice way really caused me to pause.

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Scanxiety by Hilary Bruce Saltzman

If there is one thing I have seen consistently in caring for patients with cancer, it’s the anxiety that comes with scans. It’s called scanxiety. Even when the cancer is gone, patients must undergo periodic scans to make sure it hasn’t returned. These are the scans that can bring patients to their knees, for so much (EVERYTHING) rides on the results. Nobody captures the whole of the process better than a beloved friend and patient in her piece below. 

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